Thursday, July 30, 2009

Wedding Bands | Dress Shopping

Wedding Bands
Desmond and I bought our wedding bands today! I'm so very excited! It was our first big wedding purchase. Last week we were on vacation with my family in Florida, and we did a little ring shopping down there. I was getting pretty discouraged, thinking I'd have to drastically change some part of my engagement ring so it would fit a diamond prong set wedding band. My engagement ring is set lower than most so it won't get caught on things when you're wearing it and such (Desmond knows me so well). And I love it like that. But every place we went to basically said, "Sorry, not gonna work." So yesterday we went to the place in Asheville where Desmond got my engagement ring. I just love them there! They were super helpful. They helped us find the exact rings we wanted at an amazing price! Desmond's is a simple 6mm white gold pipe cut ring. Mine has little round diamonds in a pronged set and two baguettes (which add some character). They even said they could simply adjust a prong on my engagement ring so the two rings are flush. We found them yesterday, but we wanted a night to sleep on it. Today we decided for sure that those were the ones and we snatched them up! I'm so excited!!!

Even More Dress Shopping
On Tuesday, Desmond's mom took the day off work and we went shopping for a wedding dress together! It was so much fun! They only have two stores in Asheville area, so we headed to Greenville, SC, which is only an hour away. We went to 5 different shops and I tried on about 12 different dresses. I know that doesn't sound like a lot, but it was. Believe me.

I did find a dress I like! But I really didn't like the place or people we dealt with too much. They kept their dresses very non-descript. Most places will let you take a picture of the dress--they didn't. They even cut the original designer's label out of the dress and added their own. I don't know. That just doesn't set right with me. I understand that they want you to actually buy the dress you want there, but it just doesn't seem right to remove the designer's label! I'm planning to go to Atlanta this next week. I might still get the dress from the place in Greenville--it was a great dress. Everything I wanted. But the place didn't feel right. So I'm going to keep looking.


Well, I'm going to try to post more frequently! Things have been a little crazy here. A lot of decisions, coming up really soon!

Monday, July 13, 2009

Officiant | Re-sized...again

Officiant
Today we finally got around to calling Pastor Don to see if would be willing (and available) to perform our wedding ceremony. Thankfully, he was willing and still available on the date we wanted. We really wanted a pastor who knows both of us. We had been meaning to do this last week, but we just got so busy that wedding planning was temporarily put on hold. But we're back at it again.

We'll do pre-marital counseling with him too. I've heard it's highly recommended plus it saves you (Desmond) some money on the marriage license. But we really wanted to do it anyway. Open communication is always a good thing. We are looking forward to it when the time comes (but right now, we don't know when that will start).

Re-sized!
We took my engagement ring to be re-sized...again. I had to get it re-sized from a 7.5 to a 7 when we first got engaged. But don't blame Desmond. He got my ring size from Meagan. And don't blame Meagan. She got my ring size from me...back in the day, so it was still a surprise (you know, girly conversations...stuff like that comes up). So I blame my finger. It shrunk apparently.

Anyway, I'd had my size 7 ring for about a week and a half. But, I've noticed it still feels pretty loose most of the time. It gets looser at night, and so loose when I wash dishes or wash my hands that I'm afraid it will fall off. I really, really don't want that to happen, so Desmond and I took the ring back to the store today to get it sized down again! We're trying a 6 1/2. I tried on the sizing rings they have in the store, and it seemed to fit better. It won't be ready until Thursday though, so I'll be several days without it. Just when I was getting used to it...

But yes, I'm back on the planning. I added a countdown gadget to the blog. The day is correct, but the time isn't because blogger didn't let me edit the time, only the date. Oh well. You get the idea, I'm sure. I bought another book and a couple of magazines today. I'm starting to tear pictures out of things I like. I'm still feeling pretty overwhelmed. Too many choices!!! I'm just trying to stay focused on enjoying the whole process. I'm trying so hard not to be stressed!

Sunday, July 5, 2009

Wedding Blog | We have a date! | Dress Shopping

Wedding Blog
Though I have a general blog (http://unpavedroads.blogspot.com), I've created a wedding planning blog to give everyone updates on these crazy 10 months before the wedding. I'm incredibly excited. Our engagement story is on my general blog, so I don't think I'll post it here. Anyway, the purpose of this blog is to talk about the wedding in a wedding specific spot.

We have a date!
We officially picked a date today! My parents were up in North Carolina this weekend, so this morning at breakfast we picked a date -- Monday, May 3, 2010. This took a fair amount of deliberation. Monday weddings are not very traditional and some people may have to get off work. We are planning for an evening wedding though and giving people plenty of notice, so that will hopefully make it easier. A huge reason for choosing this date was our friends. A lot of us a graduating on May 2, and we want them to be able to come to our wedding. If we wait until later in the summer, many people are working and/or can't afford the trip back to Tennessee. And we do have some other reasons. Basically every Sunday in May '10 has some conflict, and we know we definitely want a May wedding. So yes. A lot of thought went into setting this date.

Dress Shopping
Today was my very first day dress shopping. All the wedding checklists say I should start dress shopping, so Desmond's mom and I went to David's Bridal in Asheville to start searching for the perfect dress. My family had to leave early afternoon, so I was a little bummed my mom couldn't come too. But we had a lot of fun. They were super busy at the store, and the sales lady was a little scattered. We walked in and told them this was the first place we were coming to shop for a dress. They told us to sit at this little table to register. The first thing they asked when they were registering me was the wedding date. Feeling satisfied we'd finally settled on a date, I told the lady May 3, 2010. She looked at me in shock. She couldn't believe I hadn't shopped earlier. "Most people get their dress 12 to 18 months before the wedding," she said. Desmond's mom (Pam) and I were in shock. Eighteen months? Thankfully, Pam told the lady I'd only been engaged since Monday. So yes, I immediately felt very behind and stressed. Pam calmed me a little though. She assured me that the 10 months we have we be plenty of time. And I know she's right, but I can't help but feel a little anxious about all the work that will have to take place.

Another dress detail. Today, I didn't find a specific dress, but I did decide that I'm not going to talk about the kind of dress I'm going to get at all. I don't want Desmond to have a clue what it will look like, so I'm only going to tell our mothers and probably my maid of honor and maybe some other bridesmaids. I hope that doesn't upset anyone, but I think it will be kind of fun.


So that was my first day of wedding plans. It's going to be a crazy ride.